“The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger and his glory is to overlook a transgression.”
(Proverbs 19:11)
To any avid
sports fan, they could envision the above captions with the illustration of
sweaty football players, (or whatever sport relates), running the field to make
a score, (provided that the captions were depicted accurately since I am NOT an
avid sports fan.) However, this isn’t
what I’m talking/writing about today.
The “offense”
in mind is that feeling one gets whey they have ben insulted, verbally attacked,
or even when their morals, (or character), have been trespassed upon by ones
with immoral character or behavior. (For
example: Someone using obscene language
or lewd gestures in the presence of one who doesn’t use the same.)
Through
different issues, I’ve realized just how UNintentional offenses can be. First scenario: A person gives unasked for advice regarding a
situation that they know virtually nothing about. The person receiving could take it
offensively. Was the giver trying to
offend? Very doubtful. Chances are, they don’t even realize that it’s
something they do. Second scenario: A person is heard criticizing something that
was done to help with an event, and unbeknownst to them, the person responsible
is close by and heard the remarks.
Intentional offense? Probably
not. They, like everyone, was just guilty of giving their opinion, be it
negative. (Lesson to be learned here,
for all, though, is to WATCH…WHAT…YOU…SAY because you NEVER know who is
listening.) Third scenario: Someone is selling a natural product that has
been proven to help with weight loss.
They suggest that you try the product.
Meaning to call you overweight? J 99.9%
sure they were not, (and deep down, you KNOW that you need to lose the
weight).
Although
these are considered by some, (or most), to be small offenses, intentional or
not, when an emotion is negatively effected, the damage is done. So, being a Christian and TRYING to maintain
that Christ-like behavior, how does one deal with offense without coming off as
being defensive? (Face it, there are
some people who stay on the defense BECAUSE they are easily offended – even Christians.) Well, let’s ask this question: how did Jesus – the One and Only Christ whom
is our Prime Example for all Christians – handle offense after He was
chastised, spat on, scourged, and marched up to Calvary carrying a heavy cross
on His beaten back? How DID He handle
it?
“And when they had come to the
place called Calvary, there they crucified Him, and the criminals, one on the
right hand and the other on the left.
Then Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they
do.’ And they divided His garments and
cast lots.”
(Luke 23:33-34)
He prayed
for them!!!! Those who INTENTIONALLY
hurt Him, He asked God to forgive. WOW!
So, again I
ask, how do we treat those who may or may not have meant to cause offense and
who may or may not ever apologize for the offense? FORGIVE THEM!!
“For if you forgive men their
trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their
trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
(Matthew 6:14-15)
“Therefore, as the elect of God,
holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering;
bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint
against another; even as Christ fogave you, so you also must do.” (Colossians 3:12-13)
Better yet, we
need to pray for ourselves to NOT be offended in the first place. “Lord, I want to love like You love. Please, help me to not be offended over this!” I can personally attest that this prayer, alone,
WILL work. I have prayed it SEVERAL
times.
Why wouldn’t
God answer that prayer? Offense is a
seed to division, (anywhere), and that seed DOES NOT need to be and SHOULD NOT
be planted in the church.
“And if a house is divided
against itself, that house cannot stand.”
(Mark 3:25)
God WILL
take that feeling of offense from us when we fully and sincerely give it to
Him. I KNOW!
I want fresh
and hungry souls to enter in to the doors of my church, but God won’t allow
them to come and sit in a diseased body.
He wants them saved, and He wants me, (He wants ALL of us), saved, too. It’s time to forget the offenses, change our
attitudes, and decide, WITH A MADE-UP MIND, that we are going to love and
forgive – NO MATTER WHAT. After all, “to
forgive” and “to love” is a choice, right?
So….
No offense.